The Type of Guy You Should Want to Marry, Part 2

The following list was presented to the ladies of The Embassy by Julie Schulze on November 3.  What follows is a combination of her notes, Maggie’s notes, and my thoughts.  Today’s post contains numbers six through ten of ten characteristics you should want in a husband.  Numbers one through five were posted yesterday. 

6. You should want to marry a guy that inspires you to be the best “you” you can be.

I’m going to depart from Julie and Maggie’s notes here and give you the Bible teachers explanation of this statement.  Only Jesus can make you a better you.  You can’t.  Your boyfriend/fiancé/husband can’t.  You’re looking for a man who constantly points you to Jesus.

7. You should want to marry a guy that is on his way to becoming a man.

Biblical manhood is leadership through provision and protection – physical, financial, emotional, spiritual…  If a guy does not show the ability to provide for and protect you in these areas he is not yet a man.  In many cases a guy who falls for a girl will grow up very quickly when he realizes what he needs to do to marry her.  If the guy currently is not displaying the marks of manhood and shows no motivation to do so, stay away!

8. You should want to marry a guy that acknowledges and deals with his sin.

Does he acknowledge that there is still sin in his life?  How does he deal with his sin when it is exposed?  Is he seeking accountability?  Is he becoming more like Jesus?  He can’t be the spiritual leader of his home if he is not growing in his personal walk with God.

9. You should want to marry a guy that has weaknesses you can compliment.

Everybody has strengths and weaknesses.  Do your strengths compliment his weaknesses or compound them?  He can improve in his areas of weakness but they will probably remain weaknesses for most of his life.  You’re not trying to change him, you’re trying to help him.

10. You should want to marry a guy that you’d be just as happy with serving as missionaries in Africa as a having a middle-class life in the suburbs of your home country. 

Circumstances change.  Sometimes it happens slowly and gradually, sometimes suddenly and unexpectedly.  The businessman you’re dating might be called to ministry or non-profit work someday.  The guy doing short-term missions today might feel led to go home and work a 9-5 to provide stability for his family.  When you get married you are making a covenant to go with him wherever he goes, to stay with him no matter what happens (and hopefully you’re marrying a man who will consult you in where you both go together!).  You're marrying the real man, not the idea of the man that you have in your head